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Learning Self-Appreciation Hawaiian Style Ho'oponopono.

...and other skills for building self-compassion and understanding anger.

Across cultures we see a pattern of guidance that promotes forgiveness, gratitude, interconnected love, and compassion for others and ourselves. Fairness and fitting in are part of being a species that is more social group oriented than solitary predator or scavenger. Touch and social connection can be very healing. Sound is a form of physical touch too. Essential oils or herbal teas or a fresh apple are healing connections with nature, sharing with friends would just increase health benefits.

Serene blue ocean view of many smaller islands covered with green trees.  A plam tree is in the foreground.
Raja Ampat Islands, Indonesia

The following post is the first in a series related to a theme of anger and compassion; and a need for self-compassion - which means a need for balance between our giving activities and our self nurturing activities.

The Basics of Ho’oponopono - Understanding the Philosophy and Principles, is a useful brief video by YouTube channel Ho’oponopono Certification. We need to love and forgive ourselves because otherwise we are a bad enemy for ourselves to have. That is very true.

Sometimes simple is the best.

Ho'oponopono for Beginners, (YouTube)

Ho’oponopono - a Hawaiian philosophy and spiritual practice of forgiveness for self and others.

The process used in Ho'oponopono is the simple repetition of the phrases:

I am sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.

Powerful. We can move towards seeing ourselves as connected with one another and with the planet. Our energy is blending with others around us and their energy affects us.

Soothing repetition and rhythm is helping us to have more synchronized energy within our bodies. Being around or listening to some types of music can help our energy waves to become more organized and less chaotic. Other types of music can make our energy more chaotic. People can also feel more soothing to be around or have tension, stress or irritation oozing out of their pores in almost visible way. In a chemical and electrical way, it is expanding outward in energy waves or sweat and exhaled breathe.

What we choose to listen to, or to learn about is feeding our mind and affecting our energy. Staying in familiar territories may be easy and also, who knows what is in the unknown? Curiosity teaches us that the unknown can contain exciting things, and sometimes disasters too, but those can be exciting learning experiences too.

Looking at other cultures can be a quick route to learning that we are more similar in many ways than we are different. Tibetan medicine is holistic and uses functional food based healing treatments along with emotional and physical practices like healing sounds or movement. Forgiveness for oneself and others is promoted for healing purposes.

Healing Frequencies of Tibetan Bowls - meditative music (Youtube)

Letting go of anger and looking inward to recognize where resentment might be building and why, can help to reach peaceful acceptance and maybe to see where change might be needed or where change might be possible in what had seemed a stuck or hopeless situation.

“Tibetan Medicine and You” - you, the health practitioner, or you, the general reader.

I will be posting a series on anger and compassion and self-compassion based on the book Tibetan Medicine and You - A Path to Wellbeing, Better Health, and Joy, by Miriam E. Cameron and Tenzin Namdul, 2020. Miriam Cameron is a registered nurse with a PhD in nursing and philosophy/bioethics who has been studying Tibetan Medicine since 1994. Tenzin Namdul is a doctor of Tibetan Medicine. The book is a collaborative work with a goal of bringing the benefits of Tibetan Medicine practices to Western medicine practitioners. (GoodReads) (

Disclaimer: This information is being provided for educational purposes within the guidelines of Fair Use and is not intended to provide individual health care guidance.


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