It can be difficult for trauma survivors to open up to people again. Trust was wounded and trusting may seem too dangerous. A vlogger has been sharing her journey of growth during career changes and mental health difficulties and recently shared a disruption in her life. "Lovesick" feelings are real and can be very unsettling - butterflies in the stomach making a stomach too nervous to eat. It can be easy to veer between the fantasy that this is the one, this is the perfect person, because the lovesick hormones tend to promote a feeling that everything is perfect. Sometimes it isn't though. It is safer to get to know someone well before falling into the love feelings that can be confusing - but it doesn't always happen that way.
It can help to try to move slowly with intimacy as touch is only going to strengthen the lovesick hormone effect. It may also help in early stages of getting to know each other to avoid meeting on each other's home turf - that may feel more threatening to the person. A weekend get-away at some stage may be a better way to move forward into more intimacy without setting up turf feelings too early in the relationship.
Caroline Winkler, The date that caused my full mental DETERIORATION, (youtube).
She suggests watching an earlier video first, but this stands alone quite well. She also sets a good example of not oversharing personal details about someone else in her concluding statements about how the date went. Good luck to her, thanks for sharing the struggle to accept oneself, even when feeling really odd about new changes.
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